While in Liberia, I overheard a conversation between two older African American couples. I would say the couple was between 55-65 years old. I heard one of the guys say, “When did it become popular for women to travel without men?” The little feminist in me wanted to say, “sir women can travel with whomever they choose to,” but I kept my mouth closed. I turn to my best friend and said, welp I have my next blog post.
Is it really taboo for women to travel without their spouses?
I have friends that are older than me who do not understand why my husband and I don’t always travel together. I have been told everything from that’s not how a marriage works to you are asking for your marriage to end. Extreme much?
I personally feel like you should be able to travel with whoever you choose to. And, for the record 90% of my traveling is with my husband. I take solo trips (therapist recommended) and girls trips.
I don’t have a relationship where I feel I need to be attached to my husband’s hip. He travels with his friends as well. We think we should be able to connect with our friends and/or family without each other. Also, we are aware that everyone’s outlook on relationships and marriage isn’t the same, but this works for us. The one thing we have in common is our love for travel. We were traveling separately before we started dating.
I had a conversation about what I heard with my husband and he told me to look at it from a different perspective. The couples are from a different generation. It hasn’t always been safe for women to travel alone. Which is very true. My husband stated older couples normally always do things together so it would be weird for them to see groups of girls traveling without men. I can definitely see where he is coming from. Do you agree?
Times have definitely changed and women’s travel is the future. Don’t believe? There is a whole festival in New York City called Women’s Travel Fest. It’s a festival to educate women on traveling. There’s an array of classes. Everything from safety while traveling, ageism in travel, even budgeting for travel. There’s parties and everything for this festival. I hope to go next year or the year after.
I will say while travelling I noticed multiple groups of women traveling together and it was exciting to see. For me, the excitement came from seeing women having fun and living their best life together. I only seen one group of men traveling together. There were more family and solo travelers. At the resort there were at least three groups of women traveling together including my best friend and I.
I guess we can say a difference in generations can make something seem normal to one group and taboo to another group.